Glad to hear it. Very little can happen with your relationship as long as OM is in the picture, so you might as well just focus on what you want to do. At some point you might want to consider that your wife is happily cheating on you, so isn't exactly "all that and a bag of chips". There are positives to not getting her back as well...keep that in mind, it will aid with detachment and moving forward. It may give you the attractiveness you need to make OM look less attractive.
Yes, with OM around, I don't try to impress her or anything. Also, hard as it is to admit, I may not want her back, however, I'm not there yet. So, I am focusing on myself and the kids and enjoying life somewhat again. Since, she never really told me what the problems where in our M I have been reflecting and taking a deeper look inside to determine changes I want to make for myself. I'm using IC, support group, friends and family to help guide me when I need it. This board is a great resource as there are many knowledgeable people here who are really trying to help each other.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
