Best thing anyone has told me so far is, "it's gonna get better." Whether that means reconcilliation or a new life, you have to realize that when the story of your life is written, this is most likely the crisis. This is where you are tested. And you cannot control the outcome of this crisis, only your actions in it. Sometimes it help me (in a remarkably similar sitch) to think in those terms. "when the story of your life is written, how do you want to act in this particular chapter." Stay strong my friend.
