Hey NNP, glad you found that cat and got your toungue back!
I was wondering where your H was when bfh (why don't you call her ow?) called? What was his reaction to her call?
I think you're still hoping and expecting your H to act like an H. IMO he can't, from what you've said he's chronic and can't change unless he is willing and gets help. Is he still seeing a C? It's like forcing someone to lose weight or stop drinking. You can't make them.
What is YOUR plan for H's last weekend before he leaves? What is YOUR plan after H is relocated? What is YOUR plan after June 1 and your benefits are gauranteed? (((NNP)))
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.