Urgent - need advice asap

[kjensen]

Hi Jerri,
I just tried to catch up to your sitch on your other thread. I think I would take Snodderly's advice of protecting yourself and your children, getting advice from an attorney. Seeing an attorney for advice doesn't mean you are throwing in the towel, so to speak. Also, whatever your DB coach-Jodi might have suggested as damage control I would still try and stick with that plan.

Just because he texted you with this recent info, doesn't mean you have to do anything. You can do Nothing-I think we all forget that is always a choice on the table and sometimes doing nothing is the best thing. Time allows tempers to quiet. Time allows for people to become more rational and less emotional.

Although his taking his things is a big trigger for lots of hurt/angry emotions on your end-don't act on those. They are his things, he is taking them to make himself feel better, to feel control or whatever. He didn't take them necessarily to hurt or anger you. Take a step back. Has anything really changed besides some of his stuff is out of the house?

If you haven't read in the mid-life archive forum the stages of MLC and advice for the MLCer- I would read those posts. Understanding what people are going through as they enter this phase of their life can help you not take your H's actions and words so personally(because most MLCers do and say alot of the same things).