WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[confusedinpa]

I really think you need to start with the Dark/Dim first. Give her some time to be on her own so she knows what it's like. If you go into "woo" mode right now it's just going to come across as pressuring her, imo.

I was leaning towards the Dark/Dim mode first.

She called me a couple of times this morning (tactical stuff - i.e. mortgage info and baseball schedule for my 3 year old).

She had mentioned how she wasn't sure about going to counseling together when it was on her night with the kids (Mondays). I told her that I would be willing to give work with her so she didn't feel like she was losing any time with the kids if that was an issue. She said she appreciated that but right now felt she needed time to get into the new routine and as well as wanted to find/talk to her own therapist/counselor before she started going to counseling again. I told her that I wasn't trying to pressure her, only to address what I heard was a concern for her. I told her going to counseling was still up to to her and I would leave it as her decision.

I also made sure that she understood that I wasn't annoyed that she felt hurt, I was annoyed about the whole situation. I do know that she feels she is hurt and needs time and space to heal.

So starts day 3...

Thanks for checking in....