trying to be strong and patient 14

[Yoyowife]

Interesting that both sexes do that as a WAS. I'm not trying to put men in down in any way, but it really surprises me more with the woman. Typically, the dad is the breadwinner and the mother is the primary caregiver. Dad's on the norm don't spend as much time with with the children with the mother. I know in my marriage that was the case. Even though I worked full time I was with the girls a lot more than H. He rarely had one on one time with them unless it was softball practice for the girls.

Is it the guilt that prevents them from feeling comfortable enough to do what they normally would have in the past? They can't find time to sit down and carry on a conversation with them to see what is go on in their lives? Either they are carrying on with their own selfish interests or either being the "entertainer". Come on, they are their children, of all people they should have a comfortable relationship with them.

My H tends to pull the selfish mode. I can't remember last time he even took them out to eat just the three of them.