I'm so pleased that you had a good day on Saturday together. I can see why getting the court date would be a kick. Remember when H filed those papers back in October yours and his situation was very different. Bits of paper mean nothing, it is what happens between you that is important and you guys keep moving forward all the time. Still, I know I will/ would be gutted when/ if it happens to me.
I totally get you on the family/ friends thing. I was remembering for me what a huge shift it was in my thinking when I started thinking about and embracing the concepts of Divorce Busting. Society is set up so that things are disposable... I wonder who decided that the best form of action was to get rid and that is it?? People automatically go into corners when division starts and fight for their corner - you are your sisters corner I suppose (if that makes any sense?!). The 'divorce steering committee' as Michele calls it. My best friend reacts in the exact same way. When I tried to talk to her about h's and my 'lets be friends' conversation she thought how cruel he was being. Unless he expresses and instant wish to reconcile people don't see the point - things don't always work that way and I actually don't see that as a healthy way to get back together, there is no re-bonding process. I don't know about you but h and I spent 3 years dating and getting to know each other before moving in together, why is the process so terribly different now?!
Funny how the things that we and our h's are bonding over are the very things that to the rest of the world are 'signs' that it is over for good. To me it is bricks and mortar and bits of paper - the important thing is what is going on between you.
