A New Decade - Part 2

[Can it work]

I probably agree with what you said about your H being quite immature still. That would explain a lot. It also sounds like he has a lot of responsibility issues.

The one thing I almost related to with him is that you mentioned he was in a band. I'm assuming by your posts that you're both very in to the music scene? I was a singer/guitarist in a band for a lot of my younger years and to be honest it did breed irresponsibility. I loved those days but I could never go back to them now. I still have occasional jamming session with the guys but don't do it seriously any more. I remember only too well the late night gigs followed by mammoth drinking sessions which led in to god know what! Ah, I'm getting nostalgic even dredging up the memories! The point is though that I outgrew that life. I found love and happiness with a beautiful W and a perfect child. I even think that may have played a part in my separation with my W. The guy she fell in love with was a fun loving party animal. The guy she left was a fun loving family man. I embraced my new found responsibility as a H and a father but maybe, because of her age she wasn't ready for that yet. I've since tried to get a bit of the fun back in my life through other pursuits but I have no wish to go back to the partying days. I'm still the same person but I just have different values now. That's just me though. It sounds as though you and your H kept the fun going after M? For a while at least. Some people just don't seem to adapt well to the concept of M. It possibly makes them feel trapped and old before their time. I'm fairly sure musicians are the worst of all for needing their freedom.

This is obviously all just my opinion. I only read your last thread so I didn't delve too deeply in to the history of your sitch.

Keep figthing for your own happiness MsM. You're obviously a very driven woman who knows how to do that. Good luck.

Keep smiling.

Kev