You may not feel like it right now. But, you are a rock.
My only piece of advice would be to try and ban any type of "future talk" from your wife to your daughter. Ask your wife to consider the roller coaster she's required her daughter to board. Until she REALLY knows what she's doing, ask her to cease all "future talk."
It's bad enough for you, but I was in tears reading that she had talked to your daughter a few nights ago (when she confessed to you) about coming home immediately, and then, AGAIN, changed her mind.
She's going to lose her. With or without you, if she messes with her continuously.
Keep being the rock. She's unraveling. Hopefully, what's good and strong and ethical in her, will be what's left under the mush she's piled on top of it.
Be well!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
