Thanks K - I'm trying hard to separate my pride and hurt from doing the right thing for H...the two are not the same - thank goodness I can at least manage to see that. I don't want to be a DAM and use the situation to try to manipulate or control my W - she needs to do what she needs to do...and not only that she has a right to do it.
And I don't want my hurt cloud my S's reading of the situation or way in which he reacts to his mum - he needs to continue to see my W as the wonderful, warm, loving mother she is - despite the choices I hate seeing her make...
