Could use some insight...long...

[volleydog]

So I finally decided to put a thread on here and get some advice. Not going to go into what got my M here, it doesn’t really matter at this point but no OP or MLC. If anyone is interested I do have a thread somewhere on the separated forum.
Anyway for about the last two to three months things seem to be getting better between me and my W. When were together no tension just pretty much fun. Now those times are not that often but that’s fine.

A few weeks ago she bought a new car, great she needed one. Well she calls me from the dealership to get my opinion. I told her well I have no idea but I’m sure you’ve done your research and know that you are getting a good deal so I think you should do it. It did surprise me she called but I’m glad she did. Later that night I called to joke with her about how many times she opened the garage door to look at her car. I then asked her if I told her I thought buying the car was a bad idea would she really not have bought it, she said she asked three people and if any of the said no she wasn’t going to, so I still in the top three the others were her parents and sister. The reason I bring this up is it had been a loooooog time since she asked my opinion on anything that didn’t have to do with the kids.
Anyway fast forward to the week before Easter, it was our kids spring break and I decided I was going to ask her to dinner (on Thursday) when the kids were at her parents. Well I had to stop by on Tuesday to sign our taxes (yep we still filled jointly) and we were talking about Easter (my weekend) and when I would have the kids back on Sunday. Her parents, sister, her and the kids were going to go to my SIL for dinner. I told her I wasn’t sure yet I didn’t want to give up my whole day, well she said her Mom thought I should just come to dinner, YEAH . So I said sure, great. That did make me rethink asking her to dinner didn’t want do too much at one time.

So Wednesday night I decided I was going to ask, what did I have to lose? So I called and she is in an AWFUL mood luckily I did have another reason to call asked her and got off the phone. No way was I going to ask her when she was like that.

Fast forward to Friday…I was meeting her parents to get my kids and she called to see if I have them yet, nope…Little small talk(fyi this whole conv is said in almost laughing tones)…So I said you sound like your in a better mood today, she said she is, said Wednesday just sucked…I said too bad I was going to ask you to dinner but didn’t think you’d say yes. Well you should have I didn’t do anything last night…Me would you have said yes…Her I guess you’ll never know (laughing)…Me maybe you’ll get lucky and I’ll ask you again someday…Her YOU might get lucky and I’ll say yes…pretty much end of conv. since kids showed up.
Easter Sunday GREAT day, it seemed for me, kids, MIL, FIL, SIL, wife was almost like she would rather have been anywhere else. My inlaws were great to me better than in a long time, I was a little nervous being around them the whole day but it was great. Couldn’t and still can’t figure out this wrt my W.

So some questions…

I’m only supposed to pay attention to half of what they do, when it’s just us and the kids things are great, if anyone else is around she’s more distant.

She has D papers, has had them since last June, they are still unopened sitting on her desk. She has till June to either go forward or the case is dismissed. No real question here just FYI

She still doesn’t really invite me to do anything when she has the kids, I do sometimes, she goes sometimes. Do I keep asking her?

I don’t really do any pursuing or haven’t except maybe the dinner thing I’m wondering if maybe she wants me too (a female opinion would be great here). Funny thing is when we first started dating she asked me out first, I said no the first time and she actually asked again.

Sorry this is so long but any opinions would be great…