hey blue...i think its a great thing you did by burning those papers. i am sure it was a powerful moment for you. i read this quote today from a friend and she said "never give up on someone you can't go a day without thinking about". thought i would share it with you.
i was finally able to read your thread and i think your right about the MLC. i believe my H is going through the same thing and sometimes while reading your thread i felt like i was reading my own story sometimes. i think right now my H is going through the "pity party" stage where he feels he doesn't deserve another chance and that he thinks everyone hates him, etc. Kinda like your H believes you deserve better. I too would like to shake my H because sometimes it gets down right ridiculous!
I believe until they can truely "morn" or let go of their OW and realize that it was a fantasy world they were living in, they are always going to feel not worthy to have us. I guess they need to get passed the A as well just like we have to do. I think by reading all the books and websites we understand more of what they are going through then they do but we are still rendered helpless because I think they don't want our help and they don't want us to be right.
its hard going on their roller coaster rides, but i hope in the end it will be worth it. i believe it will either strengthen our relationship in the end when/if he decides he wants to save the M or I am going to be a stronger, independent, phenomimal divorced woman with no regrets knowing i tried everything possible to get our M through this.
