Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Its funny about his email isn't it? I was telling my friend what he wrote and the obvious answers came to me..How do you fix things? You stop the A. You work at he marriage. I know nothing a true MLCer would say or do at this point in the process, but it sure seems like a no-brainer to me!

H sat with me tonight at our daughter's musical. It was comfortable, especially considering our tiff this afternoon. H had forgotten about our marital communication class tomorrow! So he was glad I reminded him and we'll drive there together. H is having intestinal issues due to the AD but won't tell his med nurse so they can switch him to something different! Does he just want to suffer? Weird!

I told H I bought our daughters and myself tickets to see Wicked this fall(they haven't seen a Broadway caliber show before, so this will be my treat) and he asked how much it cost and got kind of quiet and withdrawn when I game him a ballpark amount. Not sure if he felt bad he couldn't do this for them, or upset b/c of the amount of (my) money I spent..I guess he still has issues regarding money...

I figure with all the things going on with H he is going through replay, depression and maybe starting the withdrawal stage(at least with his friends/daughters) of MLC. As angry as I've been, I still feel pretty sad for H. The A aside, he doesn't have a very fun, fulfilling life. Rather empty, lonely and sad. Its hard to see people we love suffer and be unable to help!