You invested in Michele's pro-active DVD. Great choice. It's the cream of the crop. The good news, you can implement her techniques singlehandedly! Did you mean, "Is it ever worth it to try to get H to watch this while separated?" We recommend never to push your spouse into anything. A pursuing behavior may escalate into an argument, and he may see you as controling. I suggest that you play the DVD, implement Michele's techniques, and divorce bust!