Really great insights into what's going on with you re. food, etc. I think you've laid out the issues so well...should give you a springboard for tackling them, no?
Quote: Boredom;frustrations with CJ;uncertainty.
What am I uncertain of? That our M is any better off than before.
Perhaps CJ feels better in our M, many of his issues with me have been addressed and are much, much better.
But what about my needs? It seems that CJ's trying to do stuff around the house to satisfy me, but what about strengthening our R? Romance? Affection? Letters? Notes? Flowers? Compliments?
So....one thing that's impressed me about you and CJ is your ability to "talk" about stuff ... have you considered addressing this stuff (in an email? face2face?) with him? You mentioned that he knows this stuff is your LL but he doesn't seem inclined to fill up the old love tank...could you ask for one or two very specific things that he could do for you to get the ball rolling? Don't forget to praise the stuff he IS doing (cleaning the bathroom! woohoo!!!) and ask clearly for what you need.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
