Hi Mark, I feel your pain. I am separated for over two years and our situations are quite similar. Let me summarize what I learned so may be you can find a piece of advice. - Do not try to find yourself any information on whereabouts of your wife. Do not check (as I once done) her cell phone bills, do not come to house where she lives when you are not expected, do not check her internet history etc, etc, etc. If you are like me then you will not stop till you find smth which may support your suspicions,and this is terribly destructive. So avoid collecting any information about your wife. -Your wife is 41, she may be in MLC. So she tries to live fast. By the way she very well may realize that everything she needs she already has with you -even before she is in PA. - There is a statistics that EA/PA continues in average 5-7 months. Then walked away spouse normally realizes how wrong she was. - You should be always supportive but not annoyingly close to your wife for all this time God bless you, I will pray for your family Art
