WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[MrBond]

"She said that she felt that I was not as developed as her emotionally."

This is a great big NO! She is the one who has not developed. Who is the one who is still "angry" and can't get over her anger and hurt? She is the one who is not as developed and is projecting those doubts onto you. It's very common.

Remember the times that you called her on it and she backed down? Sometimes our WAWs need a dose of reality to show them that the problems are in them sometimes. But they are afraid and its easier to blame someone else than look inwards.

Why would she even bring it up today of all days? It's because she feels guilty about everything she's doing so to alleviate the pain, she blames you.

Let me put it to you this way. You've given her everything she asked for and she still blames you. She's the one who's been giving off the mixed signals which is throwing you off and jerking your emotions around.

Stand strong and let her do her own thing, but DO NOT take everything she tells you. When many of us did that our spouses actually started respecting us again and started actually listening.

Let's face it, you haven't been taking care of your own needs just hers and she's stepping all over you or jumping on the pity train, remember? You have to have her realize that this is a result of what SHE is doing.