Thanks - I know what you mean about anti-depressants and detachment. I'm also in a situation where my H is in bad shape financially, isn't taking good care of himself and living in an uncomfortable situation. So, I have to restrain myself not to jump right into my codependent caregiver role. It also sometimes makes me feel like I am such an ogre that he is willing to give up a beautiful home, secure future, 5 beloved animals, etc. just so that he doesn't have to be with me. Then, I remind myself that this isn't about me - it's about him and whatever crisis he is currently going through. That thought helps a bit, but it's hard to maintain.
