Work to NOT pursue regardless of how you feel. Work on YOU still. Make every effort to improve who you are, at least a little bit, in SOME way, every day. Your efforts are your gift to YOU and your children. SHOW them what an authentic man is. Answers to your questions are all around you. If you don't know the answers to the questions you have, rest assured that the answers exist somewhere with someone on you MUST resolve yourself to your own focused exhaustive search to find them.
Regardless of your own hopeful feelings, hold yourself back from appearing needy. Continue GAL. Continue growing. Continue focusing on yourself and your children. Be receptive, but not a pushover. Be too busy to take her up on an offer every now and again.
Good luck my friend. I wish you well. As you are reading in my sitch, it's taken another turn and I'm working to step back, let go, and still stand firm on what is right for me and my children. I am beginning to see the light that others have repeatedly shined directly in my eyes, but for now, I will work on releasing my grip and praying for God to reveal His will to me.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
