Hey Bobbi.. I too bought myself a new bed (an oldfashioned metal 'iron' bed that I have always wanted and he hated) and moved another wardrobe in from teh spare room and moved the room around and wow, it really did make a difference, it was amazing, it was 'my' room and I slept better for it.
I think you did a very brave thing too and I agreed with John, reading it, you didnt sound done! You sounded a bit too matter of fact (practical?) so he probably has your number, knowing you well, that you arent done.
I always knew in my sitch getting anotehr man would NOT have worked with my ex.. but with Dan, I wonder how he would feel if word got back to him you had coffee with a man.. or in a group, but with single men there? Not a date, just a daytime thing.. maybe the thought of good ole reliable bobbi being in the company of potential suitors might be the shock he needs??
Or.. its just time.. more time, he's not 'cooked' yet, the buzzer hasnt pinged, he's still in the tunnel, so.. just more patience?????
I've been at this 19 months now and there are signs he is turning.. but could be weeks yet. If anyone had told me it would take 2 years, I would never have believed them !!!
I do believe that Dan still loves you, very much, for what its worth.
