I am new to this forum, but am trying to find hope in my marriage. My husband moved out about 6 weeks ago and is already in another relationship. We have been married 12 years and have 3 beautiful kids. I want my marriage more than anything and know that I have alot of work to do. I know that I am not innocent in this situation but refuse to believe that I cant change this around. I am trying to stay positive and implement as many things as I can at this point. I am still having some very ruff days, but refuse to let myself cave in. I am hoping to use this forum to find support and any advice that could help my situation. I believe that marriage is sacred and pray every night for God to help restore my marriage as well as to show me what I can do to help my marriage. I also pray every night for everyone who is also having difficulty with their marriage. I hope that I can not only help my marriage but can also have a hand in helping other marriages even if it is thru my prayers. My heart goes out to everyone on here and I will stay faithful to my prayers that God will will come to each of you and your marriages as well as to my own marriage. I would love to connect with anyone who is willing to connect on here. I know that talking with my coach Lauire it helped me to hold to my faith that I can keep doing this because this is what I want more than anything. Thank you so much Laurie. May God bless you and the rest of the Divorce Busting team for all that you are doing for us.
Okay, so your H left 6 weeks ago and was probably emotionally absent before that right?
What made him walk?
I'm really sorry there is someone else in the picture, and that that is the most unimagianble pain you've ever felt. Try not to think about that as much as possible and remember, you were first in his life and gave him something no-on else can, your 3 kids.
So you're working with the coaches? Never tried that, i'm sure it is a tremendous help.
Hang in there, maybe post some specifics of what happened.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
He has been home due to a work related injury for the last year which has taken a big hit on him. Now the doctors are saying he may not return to his profession even with the surgeries. He was becoming emotionaly distance and depressed before he left. But he wouldnt allow me to help him. He meet this woman online and has already made a trip to see her and thinks its the greatest thing in the world right now. I know that I could have done some things different, but I didnt unfortunately. We dont have much communication right now cause I am honoring his wishes of having space. He has started being a little more civil to me which is a blessing all its own. I love this man more than anything and am willing to do what I have to do to change my negative behaviors and show him that its worth staying even though hes already talking divorce and moving out of state. This has been hard and I do have the best of our years here with me. He loves his kids and is making a efoort with them in all of this, but I am just praying that God will help restore my marriage. I think the fighting also lead to him walking. I can change all of this, I know I can. Sorry I cant give you your miller, but thanks for responding to me. Hope you read this.
Well one thing I have to change is find a better way of communicating on all subjects. We fight alot over just about anything and its usually cause he doesnt want to talk about it(his words exactly) or cause I'm trying to talk to him about something and not getting much response. so I become upset with him. I need to change my co-dependent issues with him. I dont try to strike out much on my own cause I always rely on him to direct me. I also need to be happy with myself if I can be happy with another person. My self esteem is week and fragile and I need to work on that. Dont get me wrong, i know that I love him and that we can be good together but I know that I need to work on these things or im just going to continue down a spiraling path. I have even scheduled an appointment to work with a behavior specialist to start addressing these issues. So I know im headed in the right direction. I just keep asking myself what took me so long. LOL
I don't have any great words of advice..... but I will keep you and your family in my prayers also. My faith is the only thing pulling me through right now :-)
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
Fitchik-Thank you for keeping my family and myself in my prayers. I can understand about faith being the only thing helping get us thru. It is what I rely on every moment of every day. I am praying for all indivuals and their marriages on here every morning and night and will continue to do so every day. No matter what happens with my own situation, I know that I can do my part for others by praying every night and will continue to do so every day. This is something that I know I can commit to and do so with such passion. I know that everyone needs a support and this is the best support that I can be to others. Just know that you are in my prayers and I hope the best for you my friend.
I have been married for over 20 years. my wife moved out 5 days ago and says she wants a divorce, I was shocked and did not see it coming. She has not moved all of her stuff out, but she says she is going to. Help!!!!!
Tjs Im sorry you are having to go thru this. Im sure you have alot of emotions you are going thru right now. I can relate. Dont give up. If you really want your marriage then find the courage to keep going. You will fall many times, but keep going. Thats the advice I am giving myself. I will pray for you and ask God to help you thru this ruff time. I always check the boards so please post and I will be here to support you.
I really appreciate the support this only just happened. She has taken "Some" of her things. She constantly talks D though it scares me and I wonder why???
