Life never stops to amaze and surprise me! - I was a bit shocked and disappointed at the same time today since one of the guys I was supposed to meet wanted just an affair!!!
I didn't quite get what he meant when he described the relationship he was looking for. When I replied to his e-mail I used another word and he noticed it. Today he wrote that he was unsure if I understood what he was looking for and explained it to me. I told him straight away that I didn't want to be the OW! He wrote back that he understands me!
Tomorrow evening I will meet a guy who likes travelling. I wonder how he will be!
I met so many guys lately that sometimes I find it hard to keep their stories apart - LOL! Once I already confused the family story of one guy with another's. He then replied that was not his family story but must be somebody else's! LOL. I was a bit embarrassed. I have not heard from the "hiker" anymore but I am waiting for him to initiate something. Last time I did, so now it is his turn.
The weather is just beautiful again but not so warm anymore. Hopefully, it will stay like this until Sunday. I might work a bit in the garden tomorrow.
True, I'm sorry, but I've been laughing since I read your posting. The next time the guy wants an affair, tell him that you don't have a red light on outside your place. You told him right--you do not want to be the ow.
Your book is filling up quickly w/dates. You should write a book on dating. Just think, the adventures are just starting and already you've been hit up w/the prospect of an affair!
Enjoy your dating!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think she should keep a book on dating too, but fill it with the details of her dates! kind of like a little black book, so she doesn't get them mixed up.
This must be so hard for you TL, laughing,some people might pay good money for your problems.
Oh my, you truly are experiencing new and fun stuff !!! hahaha - my goodness...to be asked to be the ow !!! Although I know that men have approached me in that way too, on the internet dating site ! YIKES !!!
OH well, life goes, on, I hope you have fun with your date tomorrow !
And by the way, I know that sometimes the thought's of our H's creep back in, and we feel sad an melancholic over them...I hope you're feeling better now...
Love yah ! xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Thank you for posting to me. I am glad that you enjoy reading my "dating" stories and that they make you laugh.
One of my GF also suggested that I write a book and asked me whether dating is my new hobby – LOL.
It was yet another beautiful and warm day and I did some yard work in the afternoon.
Tonight I met a nutter! I didn't recognize the guy from the photo he sent me, but I guess the person on the photo was him. Maybe it was taken some time ago. Anyway, he recognized me and we went to a café. To start with I didn't know what to talk to him but then he started telling me about himself and his youth, and it was quite funny to listen to his stories. But, oh boy, he surely is nothing for me. He has totally opposite taste and ideas. But he seems to be well educated the way he expressed himself. And again he is quite a bit younger than I.
I told him straight away that his ideas were not mine so he knows that we are not compatible. At the end he said "call me when you want to talk again". By that time I couldn’t remember his name anymore - LOL! - I don't think I would like to see him again.
I thought the other day that I will never be able to find a person like my old XH was. I met several guys and not one of them was as interesting and comparable. I would need to get to know three or four different guys to be able to do the things I used to do with XH.
When I met the good looking guy who thinks I am too upmarket for him I enjoyed his company almost as much as my XH's. I have not laughed as much for a very long time and I felt really relaxed in his company. That's why I thought we hit it off really well. He was also the first good looking guy I "dated". I am a bit frustrated though that it didn't work out. – Oh well, I am still living in hope.
Recently I thought that a few years ago I could not have imagined dating at all. I remember reading the posts from Calder when she wrote that she met a much younger guy in a walking group and quite liked him. At that time I thought that I would never be able to do anything like it. And now I am doing almost the same and most of the time even enjoying it. – I have never in my life "dated"/met so many guys. - It is amazing how things can change.
TL you sound good. I too love to hear your dating stories. It gives us hope that there is life on the horizon. It's great to hear you are enjoying life right now, even though it was'nt what you expected.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Thank you for your encouraging words. - Yes, I do have fun dating and all my GFs also enjoy listening to my stories. One of my GFs could hardly stop laughing yesterday when I told her that I just couldn't remember one guy's name when we said goodbye - LOL.
Journaling:
Today I was really frustrated. My neighbour wanted to pull out some shrubs using my garden as access since his fence was in the way. Although I didn't like the idea and him pulling them out because I would be too exposed to him I agreed, since I thought it is better to have a friendly relationship with my neighbours.
As soon as the workmen came along I regretted doing it and I will for sure never agree to anything like it again! We agreed one thing yesterday and when they arrived today they did something else and claimed that I agreed to it.
Although I didn't tell any of my neighbours that I am D, I have the feeling that some of them think they can walk all over me since they have not seen any man around the house for a long time.
I was so stressed out and frustrated that I could hardly eat any lunch. I don't mind living on my own for most of the time but in situations like the above I do miss a supportive man around the house.
Just yesterday I wrote that the "hiker" did not contact me anymore and today he phoned me. He just told me that he has been very busy working and that's why he didn't call me before. I told him if he wanted to go somewhere he is welcome to phone me again. – He even mentioned that he thought recently that he hadn't heared from a girlfriend for ages and then the next day her boyfriend got in touch with him for some work. – Sometimes strange things happen.
Tomorrow evening I am going to dinner including a play and am looking forward to it. I asked the lady who is organizing it to put me next to a nice single gentleman – LOL. She said that she will see what she can do for me.
True, It's understandable that you feel vulnerable every now and then. People do tend to take advantage of others, especially women, at times. You just need to learn to be more determined and if you do not feel comfortable in allowing someone to do something that involves you, say I'd rather not. You have to set your boundaries in this arena as well.
Well...it sounds like your life is full of surprises! I do hope you enjoy your evening out on Friday. I will be anxious to see if you are seated by a nice single man.
Enjoy!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for your post and you wishes. - Yes, I have to set boundaries in other areas as well.
Regarding being seated by a nice single man I guess I will act differently from before being D. I have the feeling that I have become more relaxed and confident and not so nervous anymore when meeting people. So hopefully that will show.
I wish you a lovely week-end and I will "report" after Friday. Take care.
