True, I'm sorry, but I've been laughing since I read your posting. The next time the guy wants an affair, tell him that you don't have a red light on outside your place. You told him right--you do not want to be the ow.
Your book is filling up quickly w/dates. You should write a book on dating. Just think, the adventures are just starting and already you've been hit up w/the prospect of an affair!
Enjoy your dating!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.