I have to agree. If filing is not what you want then dont do it. I know many disagree but my thought is that the spouse that wants the divorce is fully obligated to file and be responsible for all of that. Financial consequences and/or a counter suit are things a WAS rarely thinks about. I oftne wonder if WAS push the left behind spouse to their limit with the secret hope they will snap and file so the WAS doesnt have that burden and doesnt look like the "bad guy".
It sounds mean but its just how I feel. My H jerked me around for 13 months and eventually you reach a saturation point with the lies, flip flopping, cliches and affairs. Its like, um, HELLO, we matter too!
Take control of you like Lucky said. Go dark (not easy, I know!).
