First of all, here the FAQ link on the top right of any page here shows you how to create links to your other posts, a customized signature line, and so on.
Secondly, let me say that I'm sorry you are here. This is a horrible and stressful thing to be going through. It sounds like you are off to the right start though; it sounds like you've already taken advantage of the DB coaching. How is that coming along?
Third, let me say that there are a lot of people here who are in similar situations (sitches) to yours. Hopefully some others will post here and tell you what is working and what isn't for them. A good way to both get and receive feedback is to read and post in other peoples' threads. If you include a link to your main thread in your signature, then people can click back and read and comment on your story, too.
I can tell you that I am in a similar sitch to yours. My W left me in November to go back to Germany with an OM. Since then, she has been on a roller-coaster emotionally and was dragging me along for the ride. Being physically separated I think made it a little easier to detach and GAL for me, but our kids have been the real losers in all of this. She is still in Germany, although her position has weakened. Her relationship with the OM has soured and she is contemplating coming home. She is seeing a family therapist on Friday.
What has worked for me: anti-depressants and detachment. What hasn't worked: pursuing, being depressed, and being mopey.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
