Glad to see you posting that you can't be replaced by anyone else. You are Mom. You will always be Mom. No court can take that away. When the kids are not around a bit, and return, they will be coming home to Mom ... that they will always love deeply.
Thank you, sometimes I need reminders of this, yesterday was one of those time and then s8 telling me he loved me was a reminder.
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The X may need reminding that no one else is rushing forward with an offer that is "best for the kids" and that being patient for a week or two would also be "a great idea".
I reminded him of this, it went in one ear and out the other.
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I fear he is just anxious to know how much he can rush out and spend, and he will
Funny you say this. S8 was telling me that his Dad brought him and S5 a new jungle gym set that cost 15 thousand dollars (I think he really meant to say 1,500 dollars. I asked him how he knew how much it cost and he said he saw the price tag online when his father showed him the picture. Amazing, for someone who is constantly crying poverty to me he sure can afford some nice toys. NEVER would he have spent that much before on such things. In fact when we got a swing set here for the kids, he only agreed to spend $400 on one because his mom gave $100 to each of the boys on Christmas one year. Just like he spends on vacations with the boys and bimbo. We never once went on a family vacation when we were together because he didn't want to spend the money.
Regarding a plan B house, we may have to do that if ex does not take our offer. The only problem is there is not much in the price range we can afford and the ones that are, well they need a lot of fixing up. That's what is nice about the current home. It's only 7 years old so everything is in good shape (knock on wood).
TP, how have you been?
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I still thought my H would eventually come home to me and the kids, and would kick himself if his "dream house" was gone as a result of his stupidity.
I know my ex will never come back. To be quite honest, and I know some of you out there will want to hit me with a 2x4 for saying this, but I honestly believe that most wayward spouses do not come back. Sure there are some, but I believe most of them remain broken. I actually would not be staying in this house for any of those reasons. Ex has been gone so long that I have already created new memories in this house without him. Besides which, I don't want my ex back.
And yes, it's a very crappy market out there for the seller. Ex wants to lower the price of the house to a low price so he can get his money. I, however, am not willing to sell low.
However, in about 4 years when I hopefully have a teaching career I will sell then if the market is right. Then I will know what I can really afford on my own and where I want to live. I don't want to keep uprooting the kids.
