How was Retrouvaille for each of you (PDT & W) given your situation?
I would think that if just one of you is not on board, it would be a fairly negative experience and result, right?
It was like an emotional enema. It DRAINED us. I felt like it opened up most (if not all) of our wounds, but left us no time to work on healing any of them, which they admitted wasn't really the focus on the weekend. It was supposed to be more about communication, and my wife and I never really had that much trouble communicating in the later years of our marriage. We each felt like we could have completed each other's Retro assignments, that's how well we knew what each other's issues and complaints and feelings were.
The bottom line is, my wife has never expressed any serious interest in doing what it took to work on our marriage at any committed level. This was a problem BEFORE her infidelity; it would ultimately prove to be a dealbreaker for me AFTER what her affair put me through.
