You know the "signs" like the back of your hand, and I see them as well.
Remind me again, did you and Mrs. Puppy go to a counselor or plan out how to fix the problems in your marriage once the affair was finally stopped? I think you said that Mrs. Puppy refused those things, am I right? I know you two went to Retrouvaille...
I'm praying for you and your family right now. (((Puppy))))
WDID,
When we reconciled, we mutually agreed to take a couple of months to just do NOTHING, to emotionally re-charge from the strain of the fight, but agreed that when the two months or so were over, that we would need some sort of counseling. We went to three separate sessions together, and I went to my individual one (the MC had wanted to see both of us individually, but my wife didn't make her appt.). My wife didn't even do the most basic assignment of the MC (to try to speak Puppy's SECOND love language (words of affirmation), since the first one -- physical touch -- was such a long-term issue with us. I was to help more around the house (which I did), and she was to look for ways to compliment me (she didn't).
We stopped going to the MC because it was expensive, she wasn't very good, and I felt like if my wife wasn't even going to do the most basic of assignments, then what was the point??
