WAW/Affair Confirmed - Advice? #2

[DCBHM]

I truly appreciate the outside perspective, and it does give me something to ponder and consider when making decisions.

The main cause of anger I have at this point is that MIL has a short memory. I put a ton of emotional and mental energy into helping her after FIL passed away last year. None of her blood relatives did anything even approaching what I did. Yet she turned on me immediately when W started her current tirade.

In my estimation - she should have simply respected my M, supported W's decision to end it, etc. without resorting to the legal drama.

Quite possibly MIL/W are now having a period of reflection since reality doesn't seem to agree with them. I am a bit perturbed that it took me fighting back in order to get them to the realization stage.

Hardening my heart has been reflexive considering W's behavior. And it is quite possible any positive steps she takes towards reconciliation are based on the realization that I am moving on.

Too little, too late is what I'm expecting.

I won't take any actions (outside of court) to damage the M any further. I don't discuss anything except D1 with her, and I'm virtually cut off. I'm approaching the 5 month point post-bomb, so it is right about that time where I start to become the larger danger to the M if I don't detach as much as possible.

I imagine things will change after the hearing, for better or worse. I just know in my heart that it is time to move on at this point. W has shown virtually zero positive movement - outside of looking/acting guilty Saturday. That probably has to do with the fact that she hadn't gotten the OM-fix for a week or so.