I just asked about the pm's b/c its strange to respond to one person in a thread.. but i understand..
I have realized all i can do is work on myself..and try to come to grips with what i want and what i feel..he is very "to himself" so its hard to get a gauge of where he is at most times.. We are in counseling.. we have been for over a month.. we are in couples and individual.. his individual is only helping him deal w/ my affair issue.. i think that is all they discuss..not sure.. but from what he says. i think it is. I feel more confident everyday that i am going about this the right way.. i just hate hurting him and being the one who is "rocking the boat".. He is stuck in this mode of "nothing is wrong w/ me.. its you that is unhappy" so i dont know how to deal w/ that.. but doing the best i can otherwise..
