((((((BobbiJo)))))) I think it was a talk you needed to have. I think Dan is doing his best to avoid facing any reality at all, and would be perfectly content for limbo to go on indefinitely. Unfortuantely, you get stuck with the task of making him get off the fence, one way or the other. The only trick is that you can't control which way he jumps.
You are a smart lady, BobbiJo, I am proud to know you!