I am having the hardest time doing this. My H left me and one thing he said was that I was not interested in him. I didn't want to do things that he was interested in and I didn't act interested in him. I do not know if I am supposed to distance myself from him or just try to be his friend and not talk about the relationship. The one night I did really listen he opened up to me and hugged me close twice. I want to feel that again, but I am scared that me not contacting him is giving him the idea that I don't need him. He admits that he wants to be someone's Knight in Shining armor. Me showing that I am independent and moving on and not contacting him doesn't feel right. HELP ME PLEASE!
Believe me I know how hard this is - one of my W's biggest complaints has always been I dont pay enough attention to her, and now, even though we are still together, sleep in the same bed every night, spend plenty of time together, when I am trying to pay attention to her and be close, she is saying I am driving her crazy! What do they want? I think the answer is they dont know. My W keeps talking about finding herself - sounds like your H, dosnt it!
We have to focus on being the best us we can be. Hang in there, it does get easier one way or another. I wish I could give you an answer to the situation, but there just isnt an easy one. I feel your pain, your confusion - many of us here do. Know that many here have made it through, become better, and learned to have a good, loving relationship through this process.
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