Are we not able to send private messages on this forum?
Bagheera, I ordered the other book and am waiting on it to arrive.. i fear giving it to him to read b/c as I tell him the things that I am not happy about.. he says that I make it out like its " all his fault"..I am trying to be as honest as possible.. and it probably hurts his feelings.. he said the other night.."there are things I could say to you too.. like ,,, you have let yourself go.." I said he was right.. i had.. and it was ok for him to say that.. but i wasnt saying the things im saying to hurt him.. im saying them b/c they are all bubbling to the top now and i cant ignore it anymore.. and if this will work at all.. i want him to know exactly what i think.. He sees it as Im blaming him for the online affair..that it was his fault.. and i dont see it that. way.. but it did open my eyes to feelings that i have been missing.. Maybe he just needs more time.. i would order this book too.. if i thought he could take it constructively.... Im afraid he will see it as yet another attempt at me "fixing" him.. I still dont know how to give him the other book.. we are no where near having sex.. and he feels inadequate at it now b/c i said i was not happy w/ our sex life..i just dont know how to approach any of it anymore..so i am just sitting back and "fixing" myself..
