I have posted my story in two different forums,, under newcombers and under sexually starved.. I am wondering if I am having some sort of MLC.. and was wanting to hear from other women who have felt the same..it seems to be prevelant w/ men..but i swear this is so real to me.. Looking forward to hear from others.. H.
There are a few who have gone through MLC. And yes it does seem to be mostly the men who have MLCs... Either because most guys don't reach out for help when their wives go through it, or don't have the patience. That doesn't make things better for the few guys here who wives did have an MLC however...
I hope you are not HJR, I also hope that people treat you with respect around here. There are some truely bitter people who will make you feel like crap for poor choices you might have made or will make. And it would be a shame if they managed to scare you off.
There is a forum called, I'm thinking of leaving (or something liek that) around here geared more toward the spouse who thinks they are done with their marriage.
I am not a woman nor have I had a MLC, but my wife did. After a long road, we are both happily married again, better than when we were dating, happy in fact. We both are, I wouldn't let her settle for 'just' being married either.
Its a tough row to hoe, but it can be done, just don't think that he cannot forgive you, for mistakes, let him determine that, not you. That is not fair to him, or your marriage to determine if he is capable of something without giving him the opportunity to try...and that is advice for down the road.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
The fact that you are verbalizing the possibility is a good sigin, unfortunately my wife , who is in mlc, has never verbalized, and has never seeked outside help.If you have not seen a counselor, seek one, talk to someone, there is help. You are brave.
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Just to clarify, my last statement was a compliment, not a cut. It takes bravery to face an mlc.
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One more thing,if you have a chance read Amyc's story, she was in mlc, and is a volume of helpful, trustworthy information, she is golden.You can trust her.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
