Shiny,
Sorry to hear about the current strife. Please be careful not to let having to endure the symptoms of your health conditions cause you to slip into a depressed state. This is a common trigger for CAW's blues (some of that going on this week).

Have you expressed to CJ that you are gettin' more anxious about a pending upcoming surgery? Making him aware of this will help understand more the source of why it comes across as coming out on him is because in a way its a cry for help ... or you may need to find another approach.

I know how needing a new vac gets put off ... always something else is more important to purchase, but think of the value of having the place look some much cleaner after making the effort to clean ... taking less time to get those results ... less frustration felt then ... and the ability to praise his efforts rather than saying, I know you just cleaned but it really doesn't look it. It would be more than a new vac ... Its an all around PMA booster!! Only last year did I learn what a difference a new vac could make !! ... Oh! ... and if you get one ... go bagless, too!

Oh and talitsa! From a male's POV, I have to agree with Shiny!

'til later,
KAW