In a Plan B house that keeps you and the kids in the same area, you might wake up in a home that has never been his, that he has no illusion of rights to enter at will, and so on. Kind of a new start on life with no thanks to him. Just a thought.
MissH,
I know you want to make this tough time of life as easy as possible for your kids, but I think Was2sad's suggestion makes a lot of sense.
For a long time I didn't want to sell my home because I wanted to keep a sense of normalcy for the kids---to keep SOMEthing stable and familiar for them. And, to be completely honest, I still thought my H would eventually come home to me and the kids, and would kick himself if his "dream house" was gone as a result of his stupidity.
But now that the divorce is final, and chances are he will never turn back towards his family, especially as it looks as though he is about to marry the bimbOW, I am looking forward to getting the h*ll out of this house. The kids and I need to make new routines and new memories.
This house is too full of him---the kids (and I) still think of and refer to certain places in the house in terms of him. "Daddy's room" (the study), "Daddy's closet," "Daddy's side of the bathroom," etc.
I think (I hope, I pray) it will be easier for us to focus on the new, the positive, and the future, in a new place that doesn't have his "stamp" all over it.
And though this is a rather crappy market in which to sell a house, there are some really good deals to be had if you are buying. The mortgage interest rates are very low. Just something for you to consider......
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
