If your husband wants to save his marriage, a big part of that will be for him to work on improving HIMSELF and seeking his own happiness out of life....hand in hand with you. I'm going to recommend yet another book, for him, if you can get him to read it. It has helped -many- men on this forum to regain their masculine drive, energy, and presence: and in so doing has made them much more attractive to their wives, both sexually and relationship wise:
Your descriptions of your husband make him sound like a rather classic case -- so if he will read at your request, then this book will help him. Tell him that it will benefit HIM personally as much as it will benefit the marriage -- and your ability to "turn-on" to him.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
