No, don't text her yet. Have a think on it. My DB coach said to me 'wait till you think you will be heard'. Do you think she will 'hear' you if you tell her that? IMO at the moment it won't make things better.
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but as soon as I see her I backslide
Why is that? Is it your feelings, is it what she says to you... identify the trigger?
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she wants to re-build her life as she said to me this morning
Michelle says don't believe any of what they tell you and 50% of their actions. These things are said in anger and in defense. Do not take them personally.
Have more confidence in yourself. You are really good at answering your own questions. For example
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I so want to reconcile, am I in denial, should I try and move on, though that is definitely not an option at the moment or in the future.
So you know what you want to do and I'm afraid patience is the key. That is something you will have to learn.
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My current situation has not gotten worse (until today), if I am being honest our conversations last week have been better
Has anything in the last week changed? Have you done anything differently? Keep doing what is working. Who knows what she is up to; the only person you can control is you.
Enjoy your children. Whether you have them or not is not going to stop her seeing op if that is what is happening. Take the chance to enjoy your children and let go of things you cannot control.
Also, just to add. People on here are not legal or financial experts. If you need advice like that seek professional help, you need to protect yourself.
