Saving Military Marriage - 3

[25yearsmlc]

I pray for His will and clarity either way... depends on the day. Some days I pray for our M to be strengthen and healed if it's His will. Some days I can only cry out "I want Your will to be done". I ask for God's will and truth to come out of our M, and not the will of myself or my H.

I definitely do not believe in giving God a "to do" list! But He does say we should ask our requests with expectation. He knows our thoughts and wants anyway without having to tell Him!

So why do we ask our requests if he already knows what we need and want? I mean if we are open to HIM...what's with us getting so specific? I also struggle with this. One day, instead of analyzing everything so much, I'd just say "Please..." at the start of each day and each night, I'd say "thanks"..and left it at that for some time....Kept it simple and now I KNOW that when our journey here on earth comes to an end, that we WILL be happier having followed His will, so that in reality, "our will" for "our happiness" matches HIS forus. Not just b/c it's from God, but b/c doing His will and being happy are one and the same...at some point at least. Sure, some days I feel that His will was the harder route to take & I wasn't sure it would make ME happy but out of duty, I'd do it...but now I believe that even now, doing the right thing is what gives me peace at this time, not later.



I have struggled with this topic a lot. How do you decifer between God's will and our own free will?
See above. Oh, and here' the other "tip" I have. When I come to a cross roads about what to do and there are plausible arguments for each choice I Make, I say choose the more difficult road. if the easier path were the "Right" one, you would not be struggling with it. It'd be a non-issue.


Maybe our free will to M was not in God's plan??? Or maybe our M was God's plan and my H filing for D was by his own free will. My mind has run circles around this......

Any thoughts??

See above..and sure, maybe ALL of it was God's will. But that gets us off the hook from free will doesn't it? There's some sort of balance in the universe but St.Paul talks about it too. I do think there comes a time when either God or free will belonging to the WAS tells the LBSer...move on, it's over.... I have a gf who I may have discussed with you before. Her h left her for OW a few years ago, and the div was final over a year ago and she prays FOR reconciliation every day AND has not dated anyone nor will she b/c "God hates divorce"....yeah, i agree. But does He want her to sit around watiting for her h? I think that choice is EASIER for her, than moving on, so she can convince herself that's God's will....to sit and do nothing but hang on to hope that is not based on ANY empirical data and flies in the face of his comments to her to "move on and stay away from [him]" AND she can call that "Faith"...but is it? I honestly don't know. But I doubt it. (Doubts...okay, call me doubting Thomas...whatever...food for thought) Like I said though, remember about which path to choose and whether the more difficult one might not be the "rightER" one...

(( j ))