New here and seeking advice

[MrNiceGuy]

I noticed that W was warm to me on days where things were going well for her, and cold on days where her life wasn't going as she planned/hoped, or was tired (WAW's don't get solid sleep either), or X, or Y.

The mood swings seem to be much greater in the WAW situation.

A response to the "make it work if we tried" comment is that I may have tried to use (although unlikely to have remembered in the moment): "Well, we'll cross that bridge when we're both ready for it."

However, having seen much more positive interactions with my W lately (not sure why), it does cross my mind (often) of what I would say in response to anything positively suggestive to a reconciliation or even a step in the right direction initiated by her. I want to think that I would simply respond with "I'm still working on me and am not ready just yet." But at the same time, while I believe I am not ready yet, I don't know what the opening will be (if at all), so spinning my wheels on every possible scenario is a waste of time.

Furthermore, my fear is that if I play it too cool or passive, then maybe she'll think 'Fine, maybe I don't need to wait around for you to be ready'. While that is a fear, hearing your situation tells me that if the W is that fickle to be so easily pushed off by a cold shoulder on the first attempt, then she is not ready, and neither of us want the heartache/headache of playing games until both W and H are ready to start again.

A lot of gray area here, which is why I still want Puppy Dogs play book (e.g. "WAW for Dummies") to be published.