Oops!!.......I think I've dropped the rope!!

[Silent Chrleader]

Thanks, Kimmie, for your concern and knowledgable advice. I've talked to a couple lawyers but haven't "retained" one as yet.

H is so strange. He says he wants a D but hasn't taken the steps.....even with the bankruptcy.....talk but no action. So, I think I am just going to get my part of the bankruptcy papers together and get them to him then wait and see what he does(everyplace I've talked to or read says it's better to do the bankruptcy first).

I am really not sure what is best to do on the filing for D issue. My MIL says I should file because that is the only thing that H will see as a "change" in me and might have a hope of "making him look again". But, it is against my principles because I don't want the D and I want H to have to take the responsibility and make the effort for getting the D.

Anyway if/when he does file, I will likely contest as you suggest, and get the specific advice of an attorney at that time.