If today was the day that you usually call her then stick to the NC and see what happens. She needs to have time to miss you. This may be what she wants now, but she might not like it once it happens. She needs time away from you to process what's going on and the decisions she's making. She won't be able to focus on anything but you not respecting her boundaries if you contact her now. By staying away you are taking the focus off of you and what is immediately bothering her. The focus will start to shift to what the real issues (whatever they may be). I know all too well how difficult it is to go dark. It's the hardest part of DB'ing in my opinion. It's also one of the best tools we have.
I think you should go away for the week that you're gone. Go somewhere you've been wanting to explore. Maybe pick a place that your W wouldn't be interested in so it doesn't make you think of her. Take the dogs to her mom's so she can spend time with them and when you make the arrangements be mysterious and only say that you're going out of town for the week. GAL and act as if you're ok with not being in hers.
