The adventure continues--part 3

[AFWAW]

Puppy,
She stayed for about 3 hours and then I said are you doing to tell our D? She said yes and my daughter didn't know how to react. My wife got upset and left. I called and said what's the deal? You can't come back and then leave again, that's no good. She said I need time to think. I said, that's messed up. You already did the hard part, just come back home. She even went as far as asking my daughter what bedroom furniture she wanted from her apartment. She finally called me and said she just couldn't face me or look at me right now. I said, do I have anything to worry about right now? She said no, I'll see you in the morning at the gym.

Honestly, how do I ever trust her again? She told me before she came over that she call the OM and told him that is was over and that when she went back to the apartment to get some stuff the key she had given him was under her doormat. How do I know this is the case?

You need to be prepared: if she truly did (and does) end contact, she is going to go into HARD WITHDRAWAL for 2-3 weeks. It's ugly. And TOTAL withdrawal may take up to six months or more. That is IF she maintains no-contact; ANY contact with him again -- even a negative one -- can set her "clock" back to 0:00.

I saw this already. She is truly distraught. I don't know if its from ending it or from guilt. That's why I'm hoping I get promoted and we are out of here quickly.

I don't know what to think honestly. I don't know if I can ever trust her again. I mean she gave up the most precious thing you can give. I love her of course and forgive her but don't know if I can ever honestly trust her again. She told me that the man was really nice to her and a nice man. I said, no he's not a nice man. She said yeah, he is. I said, really, is he married? She said yes. I said, did he know you are married? She said yes. I said, so tell me again how he's a nice man. She said, OMG, you're right! I said I know, he's not a nice man. She said I feel like a fool. I didn't disagree.

I will suggest she changes her cellphone number. That's a good idea.

I'm glad she came clean; that's good. Be sure and tell her that you APPRECIATE that she told you, and validate that you know it wasn't easy for her to do that.

I'm glad too. I asked her why she did and she said she didn't want to lose the best thing she ever had. I said why today? She said the OM called his wife from her apartment. She said to him that's messed up that you would call her from here, you must not care about me that much. He said, well you called your husband as well when I was here.

Whatever, I know I shouldn't be doing so, but I've been drinking again. I'm so tired and hope she really means what she says. I don't want to be a doormat. She said, she knows she can never make this up to me. I just don't know what to do or say at this point. I prayed for this, I know but I'm so confused and so hurt right now.