Cool! an exchange of thoughts on my sorry thread!!

Yes all, I too entertained the idea of the revenge A. This was VERY early on....like the night of bomb#1...actually, all I envisioned then was letting some long time male friends have a "glimpse" of me I'd long denied them. (I think my very modesty just feeds their desire! ).

Of course, that was when I thought CJ had just "kissed" an OW.

When I found out about the two EA/PAs I was FLOORED...too hurt to really think of A's.

I have to agree with Sage on this one: I think I am LESS likely to go that route than before (although I never seriously entertained that option EVER), seeing what it does to everyone involved.

So YES, I was a bit taken aback at how upset CJ seemed about the "boyfriend" quip. It made me realize that HE is not as sure of me as he'd like to be...perhaps it IS the element of: Well if "I" could be led astray...so could YOU!

And Optimist, I agree that I would NOT want to stoop to that level...there is something about having the higher moral ground that is satisfying, isnt' there?

And yes, it actually IS nice to have CJ show some posessiveness...SOME...because for a time about 8 years ago he went overboard with that...freaking on ME for attentions male pals were directing at me that I did NOT encourage! (How could I control someone saying I have a nice butt when I'm bending over putting on shoes???? )

Last night for example, one of our notoriously flirty, womanizing pals (yes, he's married ) was taking photos of us all with his digital camera. I was busy talking, not noticing that he was targeting ME. CJ noticed and called him on it!!! Put his arm around me in every photo J tried to take. ...That was okay.

Slept in late again today (what else is new?), but managed to lure CJ back into bed too...we joked around some (nice to just TOUCH him!) and then headed out for an obscenely huge "Blupper".

Shiny