I have been in a very good mood late. I guess it is because of the lovely Easter I had and the super weather we had.
I was mailing with a guy who I got to know on the Internet last Monday. Since I was in a very good mood I was writing to him in a funny way and he wrote back in the same style. We noticed that we have a lot in common. I already met him today and we had a very good time and laughed a lot. He even said I made him nervous! I never had a man telling me that.
He is good looking and said he would contact me again. I will see whether he meant what he said.
Tomorrow I will go to a concert and on Saturday my GF and I will go dancing with one of the guys I got to know. I wonder how that will be.
Anyway, I have not heard from XH anymore. I still have a funny feeling every time I check my e-mail and hope there is no nasty one from XH.
True, It sounds like you are enjoying communicating w/this guy. I'm glad you have someone you can joke around with. Enjoy your weekend...you so richly deserve some fun and happiness!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I do enjoy communicating with this guy. However, my XH is still very much in the back of my head and I often remember how much fun we had being together and communicating. Even after having been together for almost 30 years we were still able to have fun and talked to each other in the restaurant. Sometimes we saw couples sitting on a table and reading the newspaper or just staring at each other. We could never understand it.
It is hard to for me to accept that it will never be like that anymore. - Anyway, I must stop comparing in order to move forward.
I went to a jazz concert with my GF last night which we both enjoyed.
Today I received an e-mail from my last date. Somehow I had the feeling that he didn't want to see me again since he made a few comments about the upmarket places I like to go to. That explained the fact that I made him nervous. He wrote to me that it was nice to get to know me and that he found we had a nice and funny time, but that he thinks I am a bit too upmarket for him and my lifestyle is too different from his. Therefore there was no spark from his side.
I heard that before! However, he is right. I noticed from the conversation that he was not able to do the things I would like to do.
It was strange though. Before we met he wrote that he is a newbie in dating and that I have to promise him not to run away after 5 minutes. So I wrote back that I give him a tip which is not to have any expectations and he wouldn't be disappointed.
I am only a bit disappointed because he is good looking, slim, funny and just my type. But I knew from the beginning that I would like somebody who can live up to my expectations. Therefore, I already answered another advert which said "Everything or Nothing". That is more like me – LOL!
However, I would like to ask my last date if he would be interested in just being friends. I would like to go to live music events etc. with somebody and he would be just the right person. But I assume he won't agree to it since men hardly every want to be just friends. But I think I will try. The "hiker" doesn't seem to expect anything else either. Or is he still living in hope???
I am already curious to find out how the dancing will turn out tonight.
Hi Truelove, I am reading about your dates and just wondered if by upmarket you mean culturally as in say theatre tastes, classical music or do you mean having more money to spend on entertainment, days out etc.
For myself I have had to downsize my lifestyle due to financial constraints. Concerts etc are expensive over here. Yet I really enjoy the theatre. How do you sift or sort when looking at ads for possible dates,obviously you don't give a financial statement, lol, so is it just a case of talking and meeting up first? Sorry to be nosey but I am curious how this works nowadays. My ony real dating was done back in the dark ages when possible b/f's were known to me or at least their familys etc. I am not looking for someone who could keep me in the style to which I became accustomed although that would be nice but on the other hand I would hate to be embarrassed by my lack of cash. I hope you understand what I mean. You seem to be enjoying your dates are they all within your localality or do you travel to meet them or vice versa. Sorry as you can see I am trying to pluck up some courage. I just feel so out of date,so to speak.
Oh, I am scared to even think of getting back into the dating game. I haven't dated anyone since I was 18 except h, and now I'm 32. It has to be so hard! After our D is final, I will get out there and check it out, but I am going to be so nervous. Do you meet people online, Trusting? Where does one meet people nowadays? You sound like you are doing well getting out there and trying it out. Good for you.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hi SC, I don't know whether your post just made me laugh or it was hysterical laughing as in oh my goodness I am getting very near to being twice your age and you are scared so shall I just give up now and avoid a nervous breakdown-lol. Goodness 32 yrs is no age at all, you will be fine. Just look how much wisdom you have gained and have to offer.
Okay naej!! Sorry to make you hysterical!! It's scary to me. Shoot, I haven't been with another guy since I was a teenager. Now I'm grown with two kids. And the wisdom, yeah I have a lot more of it now, but I'm struggling to talk myself through this every day. I need a lot more wisdom.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I am quite amazed how may posters are interested in my dating! I remember that you already asked Vali in Surviving a few questions.
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How do you sift or sort when looking at ads for possible dates,obviously you don't give a financial statement, lol, so is it just a case of talking and meeting up first?
I just look at the different ads on website and if I like what the ad says I reply. I usually go for funny ones since I would like to meet a guy with a good sense of humour. And then either the questions are asked in writing or at the first meeting. I usually don't ask much but if the guy asks me anything I want to know it from him as well.
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... and just wondered if by upmarket you mean culturally as in say theatre tastes, classical music or do you mean having more money to spend on entertainment, days out etc.
The guy I was dating thought that I must have tons of money to spend because I asked him if he goes to a certain restaurant which is upmarket.
Today I thought that maybe he would like to meet somebody younger since he is quite a bit younger than I. Although I didn't tell him my age he might have guessed it. He might have written what he did because he didn't want to tell me that I am too old for him – who knows.
Anyway, naej, I hope I answered your question.
Hi SoConfused,
I agree with naej, you are still so young. I have not dated anybody as long as you are old!!! You are still so young and I am sure you will have no problem getting to know somebody.
Hi Cinders,
I did write to the guy if he would like to be friends but have not received any answer yet.
Last night I went dancing and I must say that I didn't enjoy it much. We went to a disco where the music was good but very loud. However, there was nobody there and some women danced on their own. The guy we took along found it silly the way the girls danced and I found it super. I like to dance with music from the 70s, 80s and 90s in a modern way and the guy in a classic way. So that didn't work out well. And all the time I wondered what I was doing there and that I would prefer to dance with my H. When I got home I was quite depressed.
At least I cheered up again today since the weather was beautiful and warm again. Next week I will meet two more guys. I wonder how the dates will turn out.
but on the other hand I would hate to be embarrassed by my lack of cash.
It's scary to me. Shoot, I haven't been with another guy since I was a teenager. Now I'm grown with two kids. And the wisdom, yeah I have a lot more of it now, but I'm struggling to talk myself through this every day. I need a lot more wisdom. 
