Where do you see yourself 3 years from now? Sometimes we have to light the blue touch paper and stand well back to enable us to see the shooting stars and the night sky shimmering and glorious.
Hugs to you and pup.
Naej, The current situation is not that uncomfortable. I get freedom and a nice place to live. The excitement of building connections and skills with my hobbies buffers the dissatisfaction of my M. My guess is that this cannot sustain as a long-term plan, and my impatience will grow.
The problem is that staying in this situation presents as an opportunity cost for a future relationship. It's not a problem for now, as I'm not ready, nor should be in a new R. It could be a problem down the road when I'm ready, and if I haven't moved on. My guess is that being ready and having a desire to date, or meeting a special lady, will be the motivation that serves as a catalyst to move thru a D, and unbalancing the status quo.
Moving towards something positive, seems easier to present to my W, than wanting to leave abruptly out of impatience and annoyance, because she seems to be in a holding pattern.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
