Oops!!.......I think I've dropped the rope!!

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, [[Snodderly]].

Thanks for your post. Yes, I do not plan to contact him at all anymore at this point other than to send him the bankruptcy papers when I finish them. At this point, I truly do NOT want to be incontact with him at all. Really!! It just adds to the pain.

.... Your h sounds so much like my xh .....Do not contact him again...let him come to you.

Do I recall correctly that your H left and moved across country and never returned? I'm really thinking that my H will do the same (although he'll stay because of his job) but I don't think he will ever look back. Ever. And even if he did......I'm pretty sure he would never do what it would take to help me get past all this and rebuild.

I know it's all his loss. But that really doesn't help the way I feel. His new OW is supposedly a "professional woman" who has been divorced for 20 years and raised her kids on her own. She sounds like a paragon of womanhood, and right up his alley. And because he met her after the seperation, he doesn't see the relationship as "adulterous" and I'm sure neither does she.....I know.....too much head space.

I get very angry at myself. Sometimes I feel like I will never really get past this. Never. I get a little better and then something else happens that knocks me down, and I get discouraged. Right this second I am really just trying to not think, and just breathe!!

I really need to get more diligent at practicing my meditation.

Again, thank you for posting Snodderly. I really do value your wisdom and advice. Really!