Tom, I am with you in spirit and I am not a pray-er, but I will try for you. I need you to keep your self respect and also to be practical. I am sorry that you are living in a nightmare.
If you stay calm and keep remembering your best self you will wake up. I am thankful for your brother right now. Help him as well as you can and keep distancing yourself from XW.
Your kids love you and will understand if you are not with them day to day for awhile. Just do what it takes to survive in a healthy way. Ex-Wifey is self destructing. It will fast forward if you stop taking up the slack. {I am supposing E needs to flat-line before she recovers... she is running crazy wild.} Where is her mother? MIL used to mitigate things ...
I am sorry you are suffering. Stop making it worse with your thoughts. Consider taking a crappy job, any job. Give it dignity and do it well.
