My puppy spent the day with my parents who were in town to watch my 8 year old nephew. We went to his soccer game, and afterwards to their house. We sat outside on a nice spring day, and chatted. We stayed for dinner, and I got to visit with my brother. It helps to have the puppy with me as my family companion, and as a way to connect to other dog lovers. It was a nice day of family connection.
My W and her D'ing friend came in late last night from dinner, on their way to the salsa venue. They were chuckling about the both of them having gas from the dessert they ate. I offered them papaya tablests to calm their stomachs. I don't connect with my W with sophomoric humor.
They strolled in this afternoon on their way to go clothes shopping. My W makes sure she brings me a carry-out from whatever restaurant they went to. She offered to pick up a shirt for me if I needed one.
It's uncanny how similar the OP is to me in some ways, and similar to my W in others.
My W accidently emailed me a correspondence between she and her sister regarding the OP. I saw the first sentence, and then threw out the rest, as I didn't want to see information that wasn't intended for me.
The quandary continues to be choosing the strategy of detachment (compassion with distance), GAL, and letting the story unfold, versus trying to move things along by letting my W know that I think we should proceed towards a D, and dealing with the unbalancing that would cause.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
