HJR, you talking to him about it is working on it. My wife and I, for a long time, could not talk at all about our relationship.
The feelings will return, in time, once you two heal from this. I know it isn't easy.
I too had a hard time getting over my resentment of feeling that my wife didn't want me anymore (and she had to get beyond her resentment too). In my mind she only wanted me for a pay check. But she did and does love me... I just had to let her into my heart again. I knew that I loved her, I had never stopped loving her. I had to think of her as my lover again though and slowly that part of our relationship returned.
It isn't easy and it is a bumpy road with many ups and downs. I hadn't cried in many years and then when I finally allowed myself to feel my emotions again the tears came... and I could feel the joy for life too. A much better feeling than the empty numbness that I went through before.
Allow yourself to feel sad about what has happened and then you will be able to feel the happiness and love for your husband again. Keep talking to him too.
